2nd Home Study done!!!!

We had our second home study on Saturday and it went so well! We love talking adoption with our social worker. She is a wealth of knowledge and a great resource. She asked us many questions such as:

What types of discipline do you plan to use?
Are you going to be a strict or lenient parent?
What forms of discipline worked for you growing up?
What have you observed from other parents that you like or dislike?
What do you know about attachment and bonding?
Do you plan to take your children on vacation with you as a family?
What things do you plan to instill to make sure you spend quality time with your children?
What are your thoughts on racism?
And many, many more....


We talked a lot about identity and fitting in around our community. We also talked about what school they will go to and the obstacle they might face there. Stereotypes that go along with African-American children, teens, adults. Providing good African-American role models for our child to look up to, etc...It's unfortunate that our children still have to deal with racism this day and age, but the truth is they do. It's definitely come a long way, but has a long way to go as well. It was so nice to talk about identity. Being a bi-racial family it's going to be obvious our children are adopted. They don't get to decide when or whether they want to tell others they are adopted...people will know as soon as they see us as a family. That's one advantage that children from Russia, etc...have. They can wait until they are comfortable talking about it...our children won't have that luxury.

We also talked about when our baby(ies) arrive home and how we are going to go about others holding them. This is a whole different post and it's quite complex. We will most likely send out letters or emails covering this subject for immediate family when it gets closer. We still have more research to do.

All in all our home study was so great. We are so lucky to have such a wonderful social worker that you can chat with and ask questions to. Also, an advantage is she and her husband have two adopted children and no biological children...so basically the same boat we are in. They, like us, have no desire right now to have biological children so we talked with her a bit about that as well...which is probably a whole different post as well :)

We are another step closer!!!!

Until my next post...


Tasha